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The Logic Behind the Love
Logic can be defined as the simple reasoning of facts and principles that help in assessing and validating simple truth. What I’ve come to find is that many times, individuals overlook this simple calculation when it comes to things like… love. We all hope for fairytale endings and magical moments where relationships are somewhat like what is seen in the movies; however, the mere fact of the matter is that… relationships aren’t like that and everything about love isn’t easy.
It’s because of this observation that I have come to believe that in order for a relationship to grow from a strong foundation, it is important that we also consider the “logic” behind the love. The reason why I have come up with this belief is because I believe that some things, including love, are conscious and take a conscious effort to flourish. A lot of people have been brainwashed, in my opinion, to think that people just ‘fall in love’. Well, usually, when people slip and fall… they fall fast and hard. When this happens, they usually don’t understand how or what caused them to fall in the first place. Is that really how you ‘want’ to classify your relationship or your feelings in that regard? My belief is that you should ‘build’ love on a foundation of trust and open communication. Not saying that it’s all in the logistics of the situation, but it really does make for a sensible starting point. However, of course, there must be some sort of chemistry and emotional connection in order for the relationship to actually be fulfilling… but right now we are talking about the logic behind the love.
Many of us have a set of standards or expectations when it comes to what we expect from a relationship in order for it to be successful. The problem however, arises when we sway away from the rules and regulations that we have put in place for ourselves. Take for instance… if you are someone who likes to save money, then why would you choose a partner who is financially unstable or spends money foolishly? Does that contradiction make any sense? There is not one bit of logic behind any rationale of that relationship. Here’s another example… I’ve heard a lot of people say that they want a man/woman who is faithful in their relationship. Okay, well here’s the problem… why would you then date someone who has a history of cheating on their mates? Remember, your partner is a reflection of you and so is the fact that they were your choice in regard to establishing a relationship. How can you expect someone with a history of cheating to be faithful to you when you can’t even be faithful to the standards that you set in place for yourself? Swaying from your own standards in like depreciating your own self worth. And if you were expecting them to ‘change’ for you… well then, maybe it’s important that you start off by first understanding the logic behind your own thinking. But anyways, back to the logic behind the love. People display character patterns on a constant a continuous basis. Although some do introduce their “AGENT” (the representative that is first introduced to in attempt to achieve desired results; the ‘presented’ self who speaks on behalf of a person’s ‘true’ and actual self), there are some traits that undeniably cannot be hidden.
For instance… smaller character traits can sometimes be observed on a larger scale which may at some time prove relevant to your relationship. Let’s use courtesy as an example. If you find yourself in a situation where simple courtesies are always overlooked, then that may very well prove relevant later on in your relationship where something as simple as courtesy can hold a great weight. This same method applies to matters such as lies and honesty, unreliability, faithfulness, trustworthiness, etc. We could go on for days but ultimately its very simple… there are certain traits and characteristics that when noted… should not be disregarded solely on the fact that there is an emotional attachment. Before emotions are proved relevant, one should first examine the logics behind the partnership. It’s like looking at a business relationship… you have to find the right fit. Therefore, in carrying on with the relationship you have a clearer knowledge of what is expected and what should or should not be tolerated.
Why would you even choose to explore a possible relationship with someone who doesn’t live up to your standards or expectations? Don’t forget… prevention is always better than cure. Before you even open the door for emotions to flow in, allow yourself to LOGICALLY examine the pros and cons that are relevant to that situation. It is only in that knowledge that you can truly make a responsible, rational, and uncompromised decision. It makes absolutely NO sense to carry on a relationship with someone who you know is not good for you or logically doesn’t ‘fit’. Because ultimately, in the end, you’ll only live to regret the amount of time that was wasted on something you knew wasn’t going to work anyway but you left up to chance because of your emotions. Yes, emotions are very relevant in the success of a relationship and there is no real science to finding the ‘right’ partner but there are some precautionary methods that should be utilized before commencing. You should never tolerate less than what you deserve just to ‘see what happens’ or just because you are hoping for the best. Reasons like that are merely excuses…. show your strength in the fact that you are able to rise above them.
Persuade Love Expert Blogger: Alicia Brathwaite